Bailey got his wings... June 26, 2014

[Geoff]

Re: Bailey got his wings... June 26, 2014

Thanks so much for your sentiments Barb. I will look back no doubt and think that. Poor pup. I got his ashes back tonight, that has brought me great comfort to have my boy home with me. Life is too short, sadly and our furry friends candles burn too fast.

Geoff

[jgr789]

Re: Bailey got his wings... June 26, 2014

What a lovely way to remember your boy and keep him close.

[sherryandfred]

Re: Bailey got his wings... June 26, 2014

Geoff,

Guilt... I too struggled....the last day, wishing I had known she would fail so fast, I would have made the decision a day sooner, perhaps a week sooner. I have a picture of Abby and myself a week before, and her face reminds me of Baileys. I have compared that picture of those that you have with Bailey, your last picture, and they are the same. They were ready. Notice it sometime, they seem to be very ...long in the face....

Life is so short, especially for our pups. Take care of yourself, and your family, it will be nice to have Bailey home again.

Barb

its funny how we all say we wonder if we did it right and if it was the right time..till we look back at pictures and see how sick they looked..we just did the same thing and was like wow how fast fred declined..when you live with them you dont see it..
my inlaws live beside me and fred always went over but hadnt in awhile and i kept telling them i think its time..she kept saying i cant believe you are going to do that he is fine we see him in the yard and so on..then he went over and she was like wow yes you are right its time..amazing what a picture tells..i am glad you have him back home and are healing..

[Yulismum]

Re: Bailey got his wings... June 26, 2014

Geoff, my heartfelt condolences.

I lost one of my babies (not diabetic) in January. He was 14, and I won't go into the details, but I didn't expect that I would be leaving him with the specialist when I took him for scans.

It took a while to get over, and one of the other dogs went into a depression, they had been together for 14 years. 7 months on, it is a little easier, but things to trip us up from time to time. But now I can remember him and smile without reaching for a box of tissues.

You and your family need time to grieve. I am glad you are feeling a little better now that he is home.

[Geoff]

Re: Bailey got his wings... June 26, 2014

I guess we can't see if when we live with someone. And yes, it is good to have my boy home, time goes so quickly. Almost been a week already. This year just seems to be flying by.

its funny how we all say we wonder if we did it right and if it was the right time..till we look back at pictures and see how sick they looked..we just did the same thing and was like wow how fast fred declined..when you live with them you dont see it..
my inlaws live beside me and fred always went over but hadnt in awhile and i kept telling them i think its time..she kept saying i cant believe you are going to do that he is fine we see him in the yard and so on..then he went over and she was like wow yes you are right its time..amazing what a picture tells..i am glad you have him back home and are healing..

[Geoff]

Re: Bailey got his wings... June 26, 2014

Hello Ann, yes it's tough going isn't it, things happen in the blink of an eye sometimes. 14 years is a long time. I know things will trip me up too.

Thanks - Geoff

Geoff, my heartfelt condolences.

I lost one of my babies (not diabetic) in January. He was 14, and I won't go into the details, but I didn't expect that I would be leaving him with the specialist when I took him for scans.

It took a while to get over, and one of the other dogs went into a depression, they had been together for 14 years. 7 months on, it is a little easier, but things to trip us up from time to time. But now I can remember him and smile without reaching for a box of tissues.

You and your family need time to grieve. I am glad you are feeling a little better now that he is home.

[peggy0]

Re: Bailey got his wings... June 26, 2014

I felt like forbin was home as well when his ashes came back. I say good morning and goodnight to him every single day

[momofdecker]

Re: Bailey got his wings... June 26, 2014

Thought I'd be a wreck when I had to go pick up Decker's ashes but when I went in to get them I was surprisingly calm. I felt the same as you described - was happy to have him back home. My daughter had a fractured knee and had an ortho appt. that day. She wanted to take Decker with us so his ashes rode in the back with her. A bit strange to some probably but it's what worked for us at that moment in time.

This forum is a wonderful place not only for advice but to help folks move through the grieving process as well. Hate that there has to be so much sadness to go with the love but I guess it's all part of the circle of life.

[Patty]

Re: Bailey got his wings... June 26, 2014

They do burn too fast Geoff. Glad he is back home.

[Geoff]

Re: Bailey got his wings... June 26, 2014

Thanks Patty :-) And no Momofdecker, I don't think it's weird about you putting the ashes in the back with your daughter, very sweet. When we move to the new house, he is coming with me in the front seat like old times for certain. This forum has been great. And I went to a funeral last Friday (yes, day after Bailey passed so it was tough) but the man performing the service said to not know love would be to not know sadness, the two indeed go hand in hand. I think I have been grieving for 2.5 years to be honest. We almost lost him back in March 2012, it was tough back then, I even had him "booked in" but he was so brave and pulled through. But yes, been a tough couple of years, like walking on ice.

It is nice having him home, next to the candles I light every evening.

[jesse girl]

Re: Bailey got his wings... June 26, 2014

i can understand the grieving process for 2.5 years . i miss the lives that jesse has lived the puppy stage . that time when my kids were young

i guess we miss times in our lives and they are kind of like a death even though we are all still present .

[Geoff]

Re: Bailey got his wings... June 26, 2014

Yes it is hard the whole process isn't it. The only good part is having them almost. Still, I have precious memories. It is sad though. The kids wont remember him but fear not, I have lots of photos and video to show them! Photos have to be one of the greatest inventions surely.

I was particularly sad driving home yesterday afternoon. I felt he was given a bad hand early on with epilepsy since he was 2.5 and on medication for all those years, very sad. No wonder his liver packed it in and goodness knows what else. I wouldn't change him of course and I'd do it all again in a heartbeat. I just miss him....

[Cara Sandler]

Re: Bailey got his wings... June 26, 2014

Yes, it really is so hard. I keep finding strands of Sparky's hair everywhere. I'm collecting them all in an envelope.

[Geoff]

Re: Bailey got his wings... June 26, 2014

Ahh Cara, hugs to you. Bailey didn't shed hair, I snipped some off before he went. But it is hard. All the places Sparky has been around the house. Think of the good times, its not easy to do but I'm trying.

[Cara Sandler]

Re: Bailey got his wings... June 26, 2014

The strangest thing actually happened - when I first starting testing Sparky's blood glucose, and I (finally!!!!) found a spot that worked, I snipped off a little bit of hair so I could find the spot again. I'm POSITIVE that I threw that snippet of hair out. But just after I lost him, I found the lock of hair in my bed. The sheets had been changed and washed at least once a week, and yet there it was. The rescue group that did Sparky's cremation also cut off a lock of hair for me. I'm not sure why I keep saving all these pieces of hair, and collecting every strand I find. But he had the most beautiful, 2 colored hair shaft. Every single one of his hairs was part black and part blond or brown. I've never seen hair like that before.